You might not feel it yet, but it will be, if you allow it to be.
The restrictions of the last few years have, in many ways, brought things to the surface that were ripe for resolution. The uncomfortable squeeze that many have felt has served its part in accelerated expansion and growth for those that allow it in.
🤔 What has surfaced for you in the last few years?
🤔 What can’t you stand anymore?
🤔 What are you longing for?
🤔 What self-sabotaging habits are you finally tired with?
2022 is your year to fully commit to yourself. It’s a year to embrace self-care once and for all. It’s a year to listen to, and honour your feelings and needs. It’s time to embrace who you are and who you are becoming. A time to practice speaking up honestly and compassionately. If the last few years have taught us anything, they’ve taught us to be real.
💚 What is real for you?
💚 Who is it that you are?
💚 Who is it that you want to be?
💕 What will you do to become that person?
💕 How will you commit to yourself more fully?
2022 is a year to honour where you are now, whilst at the same time keeping your focus on who you want to be. It’s a year to go at your own pace, in your own way. Step back from what anyone else is or isn’t doing and what pace they are or aren’t doing it. Step more fully into who you are and who you wish to become, going at your own pace, in your own time, and in a way that feels right for you.
When we all step into listening to and honouring our own individual feelings and needs, it enables us to come together interdependently rather than co-dependently. It enables us to support ourselves and each other. It enables us all to bring our gifts and talents to the table in a sustainable way.
And whilst all this sounds wonderful, and it is; don’t mistake the brilliance of this approach as being the easiest path. It requires committed effort, the building of trust and considerable ongoing reflection and communication.
A useful tool perhaps to reflect on is Brené Brown’s Anatomy Of Trust model, BRAVING. Personally, I think it offers a great check-list to filter life through, both individually and collectively. I’ve summarised it below, and here is her talking through it.
Anatomy of Trust – B.R.A.V.I.N.G Brené Brown
Boundaries – you are clear about your boundaries and you hold them, and you are clear about my boundaries and you respect them.
Reliability – you do what you say you are going to do, consistently. Not over-committing and then being unable to deliver.
Accountability – when you make a mistake, you are willing to own it, apologise for it, and make amends. When I make a mistake I am allowed to own it, apologise for it, and make amends.
Vault – what I share with you, you will hold in confidence. What you share with me, I will hold in confidence. Gossip, whilst often coming from a place of trying to gain connection and closeness with the one you are gossiping to, undermines trust.
Integrity – choosing courage over comfort; choosing what’s right over what’s fun, fast or easy; practicing your values not just professing them.
Non-judgement – I can fall apart, struggle and ask for help without being judged by you. You can fall apart, struggle and ask for help without me judging you. If you think less of yourself when you need to ask for help, then without realising it you will be thinking less of others when they ask for help.
Generosity – you assume the most generous thing about my words, intentions and behaviours, and then check-in with me if I screw up, rather than ignore me and hold it against me until bringing it up at a later date.
Let 2022 be your year. Make a loving commitment to yourself in all ways. Be kind to yourself. Be honest with yourself. And hold yourself accountable to who you want to be, non-judgementally and encouragingly, just as a best friend would.
So let’s make 2022 a year to be kind, to be real, and to truly live.
Wishing you all the very best and sending you all my love and encouragement every step of the way 💕💕💕